A taboo subject, dealing with the day to day

Recently, I saw an article someone posted on facebook saying that Utah is one of the most depressed states in America and the a majority of those depressed in the areas are women. The article went on to describe how women in the area feel the must keep up the appearances of the "perfect" life, household, family, etc... Yet, they struggle internally because they are not as perfect as the neighbor down the street and feel they cannot show or express any type of struggle or down period. So, they go to their doctors and receive medication so they can continue to "keep up the appearance of a perfect life" without anyone knowing what's really going on inside them.

Depression is a very taboo subject among most anyone, those who are depressed don't want to show any weaknesses, they don't want others to feels sorry for them or have anyone think less of them. Those who are not depressed, just don't understand. They see others as weak or lazy and cannot figure out why they can't be normal.

 A majority of people who are depressed or on the verge of depression keep their feelings inside, harboring guilt, sadness and loneliness. Society tells us to keep up appearances, "life's not perfect, get over it" or "everyone deals with being said or mad, it'll pass and you'll feel better in a few days". Those who have never dealt with depression know it doesn't just "go away" like people say it will.  Everyday things in life become just a bit harder to accomplish.

When you find yourself in the bout of depression or slump, what can you do to make things better for yourself? One thing, like I am doing now you can write about it, try to reach out to others who may need a little encouragement or understanding. Let people know they are not the only ones out there who are sad or depressed. Another way to help move forward in the day, the week and the month is set yourself an attainable goal. Make daily, weekly and monthly goals. They can be as easy as making your bed each day, exercising daily or having a weekly lunch with a friend or spouse. It's those little things that go a long way and can help you in the long run.

One thing is for sure, when you have a great family and support system everyday living becomes a little easier. So, next time you think someone is being lazy or unappreciative don't dismiss them right away, it may not be what it seems. Don't feel sorry for that person, we're not looking for pity, just understanding and patience.